We’ve all been there – when the clock strikes midnight on New Year’s Eve, surrounded by fireworks and celebrations, we promise ourselves that this is the year we’ll finally shed those last 15 pounds. But let’s be real, how often do we actually stick to those well-intentioned resolutions?
Don’t worry, I’ve got you covered. This article is here to provide practical strategies on how to make New Year resolutions, specifically tailored for the tired, busy mom. So let’s dive in and make this year the one where we truly make it happen!
Why Make New Year Resolutions?
I know what you’re thinking, “Why bother with New Year’s resolutions at all? I never end up sticking to them.” Trust me, I’ve had my share of asking the same question. But let me tell you, there’s some magic hidden in those resolutions. And following these tips will help you learn how to make New Year resolutions that you can actually keep.
First off, New Year resolutions provide us with a blank slate, a fresh start. It’s like getting a new notebook (don’t you just love those?) – the possibilities are endless!
I love the idea of spending time at the beginning of the year, reflecting on the previous one, and being thankful for both the good and not-so-good times that led me to where I am today. Then I think about how I can make this year even better. Starting this way sets the tone for growth and improvement in the year to come.
Secondly, setting resolutions allows us to reflect on what we truly want for ourselves and our families, providing the motivation we need to make changes.
And lastly, it’s about hope. Despite the sleepless nights, the endless chores, and the constant juggling between work and family, we hope for a bit of light at the end of the tunnel.
Making New Year resolutions is like planting that seed of hope, nurturing it with our actions, and watching it bloom over time. As tired, busy moms, we could all use a little more hope, couldn’t we? So let’s give this resolution thing another shot, sound good?
What in the World is a Resolution & How Is It Different from a Goal?
Wondering what a resolution is and how it’s different from a goal (because yes, they’re totally different)? Let’s break it down some!
A goal is something that you try to accomplish. Think of soccer players playing hard and trying their best to kick the ball into the goal.
The goal is the endpoint that you want to reach. For example, you might have a goal of losing 10 pounds, gaining more energy, or not yelling at your kids anymore.
When set correctly, goals should have a clear endpoint. You should know when you have reached your goal. So, if your goal is to 10 pounds, once you’ve lost the weight, you’re done! Yay! You accomplished your goal.
A resolution, on the other hand, is more of a shift in behavior or mindset that helps you reach that goal. It’s the decision that you WILL do something.
Think of a resolution as a promise you make to yourself, an on-going commitment to change and improve your life. It can be a theme you want to set for yourself or maybe even a word, like “gratitude,” that you want to focus on for the upcoming year.
So these aren’t just things that you are trying to do or specific end goals you’re trying to reach. It’s a mindset that then helps you determine your goals and daily habits.
Which Is Better?
Goals and resolutions are completely different, and one is not better than the other (just like you don’t favor one kid over another, right?), despite what you may have heard elsewhere. They each have their place.
Resolutions are a great place to start. They help us decide what we want to change in our lives and what we want to make better.
Then we can set goals to help us stick to our resolutions. Those goals are the mile-markers that let us see that, yes, we are making progress toward our resolution. We are making keeping that commitment to ourselves.
Putting Them Together
Before you begin a road trip, you first have to know where you’re going, right? Do you want to visit Glacier National Park, New York City, or Key West, Florida? The route completely depends on the destination.
Same thing goals with changes you want to make in your life. Start with the destination in mind first – that’s your resolution. Who do you want to become this next year? What do you want to change? What is your focus?
Then you can determine the goals that will get you there.
So if your resolution is to become a more energetic mom, you can create goals that help you get there. Envision what it would take to get to a place where you wake up energized and have plenty of energy to make it through your day without having to depend on jugging coffee by the gallon.
What do you need to do to get there? Maybe it’s getting at least 8 hours of sleep at night, maybe it’s starting your day with breakfast, or maybe it’s joining my program, The Fatigue to Freedom System. So make those your more specific goals.
What’s great about resolutions is they’re not a one-time thing. It’s a journey that you take step by step, day by day. You keep working on it, refining it, and making progress. Resolutions can be as big as starting a new business or as simple as drinking more water. But no matter what it is, a resolution is all about self-improvement.
Let’s be real, who doesn’t need a little self-improvement? Especially us moms, who often prioritize everyone else before ourselves.
How to Make New Year Resolutions & Goals
Now that we’re clear on what resolutions and goals are let’s get into 5 tips on how to make New Year resolutions and goals that you can stick to.
1. Keep Them Positive!
First off, when making both your New Year resolutions and goals, try to frame them in a positive way.
Think about it – when we say, “I want to stop feeling so tired all the time,” we’re focusing on the fatigue, the thing we don’t want. Instead, let’s flip that around and say, “I want to feel more energetic and lively.” BAM! Now, that’s a resolution that sounds more exciting, doesn’t it?
Keeping goals positive gives us something to strive for rather than something to run away from. And, as busy moms, we know we do enough running around as it is!
Avoid setting harsh or negative goals that feel like punishments. Keep your focus on positive things. What you can do to be the best version of yourself that you can be?
Plus, when our goals are positive, it makes the journey more enjoyable, and we’re more likely to stick with it.
2. Make Them Realistic & Attainable
When making your resolutions, it’s also important to be realistic and set yourself up for success. As a Holistic Health Coach, helping my clients set goals is something I do. And I don’t want to see them set huge, completely unrealistic goals and then fail to achieve them. Because that is really discouraging and makes it really hard to continue making healthy changes.
Instead of aiming for impossible transformations, focus on achievable goals that you can accomplish within a year.
Making 50 drastic changes overnight is not realistic and is going to end in burnout and disaster really fast. Instead, choose goals that are within reach and slowly add them in – one at a time.
After you’ve determined your overarching resolutions for the year, start with one realistic goal that you want to achieve in January. Then add in another goal you can accomplish in February, and so on, all helping you get towards your overarching resolution.
Remember, you don’t have to move mountains overnight – or even over one year. Small, consistent steps can lead to significant progress over time.
And really, it’s about the journey anyway. Doing the activities and building the habits that help you reach your goals is what makes the difference. It’s the small, daily changes that add up to create huge changes over time.
3. Get Specific
Setting vague and open-ended goals can leave you feeling lost, stuck, and unmotivated to make any changes. So, why not try something different?
Instead, focus on setting clear and measurable targets. What exactly will you do? What specific changes will you make to help you stick to your resolution?
For example, rather than just saying you want to “exercise more,” (which could very well be a resolution, but not a goal), make a specific goal to “walk for 30 minutes every day after dinner.”
It’s all about giving yourself that extra push and staying on track by setting deadlines for your goals. Trust me, it’ll keep you motivated and moving forward!
4. Make Them Timely
There’s something to be said for the power of a deadline. Just think about how productive you are when you know you’ve got something due the next day. It’s a kind of magic, isn’t it?
Let’s bring that magic to your New Year goals. Instead of setting a goal to “drink more water,” put a deadline on it. Say, “I will drink 8 glasses of water every day this week.” See the difference?
There’s a clear end-point, which adds a sense of urgency and makes it easier to stay committed. Especially when the end-point is not too far in the future. So make your goal for one week or one month – not a goal for the entire year.
Your resolutions are the long game. They’re what you’ve determined to do all year long. But your goals should be short, time-sensitive things. Set a time frame for how long it will take to achieve your goals and when you want to achieve them.
If your resolution is to be more active, your first goal could be to strength train 1 day this week. Then maybe next week you set a goal to strength train 2 times.
Try to break your goals into smaller, more manageable chunks. Instead of aiming to “lose 50 pounds this year”, set small goals to lose 1 pound each week. It’s essentially the same goal, but the latter seems more achievable, right?
Using deadlines keeps you from getting lost in the vastness of your goal. You can focus on one week at a time, one day at a time, even one meal at a time!
And remember, it’s not about perfection—it’s about making progress. Each step, each day, gets you closer to where you want to be.
4. Write Them Down & Review Them
Writing down your resolutions can increase your commitment and help you visualize your goals clearly. More than likely, you’re not going to remember any of the goals you make if you don’t write them down.
Write them down, read them aloud to yourself, and even share your goals with someone else. Putting your resolutions and goals out there helps you remember them better and allows for some accountability.
I like to write my New Year’s resolutions in my journal and set shorter-term goals for each month related to my resolutions in my planner. On Sunday each week, I like to look back at my resolutions and goals and make my plan for the upcoming week to work towards those things.
Now that you’ve written your resolutions and goals down, don’t just leave them there and forget all about them all year. Keep them somewhere you can see them often, such as on your fridge or as a background on your phone. Regularly review your goals and adjust them as needed. This will help you stay focused and allow you to tweak your approach if necessary.
Want more tips on how to make New Year resolutions? Read more here and watch below to see what my goals for 2021 were.
I’d love to know – what are some resolutions and goals you’re setting this year?
Remember, every resolution is a promise to yourself. It’s a promise to prioritize yourself and create a better, happier, and healthier you. A you that is better able to show up and make a huge impact on your home, family, and world.
If your resolution this year is to gain more energy, then I strongly urge you to join The Fatigue to Freedom System. This program is specifically designed to address the root cause of your fatigue, heal your metabolism, and help you regain that youthful energy you’ve been longing for.
Whatever your goals are, I wish you the best. Here’s to a year of meaningful change, victories, and resolutions that stick! Happy New Year!